There are very few responsibilities pegged onto the groom of a modern wedding. Show up in a tux. Pay for things. Smile for the camera. Meanwhile, stay blissfully unaware of any of that silly planning business that the bride is fussing about. Every so often, you may be asked to choose a color or comment on a candle, but that will either be after the bride has discovered that all of her bridesmaids are dodging her phone calls or to make you feel important and lull you back into your testosterone-induced stupor. But you're not important; this is the bride's special day and you're just supplying the contrast so that her white gown looks even more radiant in the photos.
But is that what you want?
You. Guy in the tux. The groom.
What if you want to be involved in your own wedding? What if you want to have a say in what goes on? What if you - you might want to sit down for this one - have an opinion of your own?
That's the position I found myself in when we started planning for our wedding. It's scary, but I'm going to take you through the journey with me. Buckle your seat belts.
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